Jamál, 17 ʻ’Izzat (Might), 180 B.E.

Reflections on the Life of the Spirit

Quotes for Reflection:

…backbiting quencheth the light of the heart, and extinguisheth the life of the soul. — Bahá’u’lláh ¹

Breathe not the sins of others so long as thou art thyself a sinner. — Bahá’u’lláh ²

Speak no evil, that thou mayest not hear it spoken unto thee, and magnify not the faults of others that thine own faults may not appear great — Bahá’u’lláh ³

How couldst thou forget thine own faults and busy thyself with the faults of others? — Bahá’u’lláh ⁴

Question for Consideration:

With the above quotations in mind, what do you do when a friend starts to talk about another person’s faults? ⁵

Google Bard Response:

When a friend starts to talk about another person’s faults, I would do the following:

1. Listen. I would listen to my friend without judgment. It is important to let them know that I am there for them and that I care about what they have to say.
2. Ask clarifying questions. I might ask my friend some clarifying questions, such as why they are talking about this person’s faults or how they feel about the situation. This will help me to better understand their perspective.
3. Gently remind them of the Bahá’í teachings on backbiting and speaking ill of others. I would do this in a loving and supportive way, reminding them that it is important to focus on our own shortcomings rather than the shortcomings of others.
4. Suggest that we talk about something else. If my friend continues to talk about the other person’s faults, I might suggest that we talk about something else. This could be a good way to shift the conversation and avoid getting caught up in gossip.
   

It is important to remember that we all have faults. We are all on a journey of spiritual growth and development. When we focus on the faults of others, we prevent ourselves from progressing. We also create a barrier between ourselves and others.

It is also important to remember that we are all connected. When we hurt others, we hurt ourselves. When we are kind to others, we are kind to ourselves.

When we focus on the good in others, we create a more positive and loving world for everyone.

1. Bahá’u’lláh. Gleanings from the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh. Translated by Shoghi Effendi. Bahá’í Reference Library. Accessed September 24, 2023. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/gleanings-writings-bahaullah/7#568533901. ↩
2. Bahá’u’lláh. The Hidden Words. Translated by Shoghi Effendi. Bahá’í Reference Library. Accessed September 24, 2023. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/hidden-words/2#605082403. ↩
3. Bahá’u’lláh. The Hidden Words. Translated by Shoghi Effendi. Bahá’í Reference Library. Accessed September 24, 2023. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/hidden-words/3#697759113. ↩
4. Bahá’u’lláh. The Hidden Words. Translated by Shoghi Effendi. Bahá’í Reference Library. Accessed September 24, 2023. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/hidden-words/2#568477331. ↩
5. Ruhi Institute. Reflections on the Life of the Spirit. 4.1.2.PE May 2020. Vol. Book 1. 6 vols. Embarking on a Path of Service. Cali, Columbia: Ruhi Institute, 2020, 10. https://www.ruhi.org/en/walking-a-path-of-service/#RLS ↩

Jalál, 16 ʻ’Izzat (Might), 180 B.E.

Reflections on the Life of the Spirit

Quote for Reflection:

This is the day when pure hearts have a portion of the everlasting bounties and sanctified souls are being illumined by the eternal manifestations. Praise be to God! You are believers in God, assured by the words of God and turning to the Kingdom of God. You have heard the divine call. Your hearts are moved by the breezes of the paradise of Abhá. You have good intentions; your purpose is the good pleasure of God; you desire to serve in the Kingdom of the Merciful One. Therefore, arise in the utmost power. Be in perfect unity. Never become angry with one another. Let your eyes be directed toward the kingdom of truth and not toward the world of creation. Love the creatures for the sake of God and not for themselves. You will never become angry or impatient if you love them for the sake of God. Humanity is not perfect. There are imperfections in every human being, and you will always become unhappy if you look toward the people themselves. But if you look toward God, you will love them and be kind to them, for the world of God is the world of perfection and complete mercy. Therefore, do not look at the shortcomings of anybody; see with the sight of forgiveness. The imperfect eye beholds imperfections. The eye that covers faults looks toward the Creator of souls. He created them, trains and provides for them, endows them with capacity and life, sight and hearing; therefore, they are the signs of His grandeur. You must love and be kind to everybody, care for the poor, protect the weak, heal the sick, teach and educate the ignorant. — ‘Abdu’l-Bahá ¹

Question for Consideration:

What happens to the progress of the soul of a person who focuses on other people’s faults? ²

Google Bard Response:

According to the passage you quoted from ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, the progress of the soul of a person who focuses on other people’s faults is hindered. He says that “humanity is not perfect” and that “there are imperfections in every human being.” If we focus on the faults of others, we will always be unhappy.

He also says that “the imperfect eye beholds imperfections” and that “the eye that covers faults looks toward the Creator of souls.” When we focus on the faults of others, we are not seeing them as God sees them. We are not seeing their divine potential.

Instead, we are seeing them through the lens of our own imperfections. This lens is clouded by our own judgments and prejudices. It prevents us from seeing the good in others.

When we focus on the faults of others, we also become more critical and less compassionate. We may even start to see ourselves as superior to others. This attitude is harmful to our spiritual growth.

It is important to remember that we are all on a journey of spiritual growth. We are all learning and growing, and we are all making mistakes. When we judge others, we forget that they are on the same journey as us. We also forget that we are all connected. When we hurt others, we hurt ourselves.

If we want to progress on our spiritual journey, we need to focus on our own shortcomings rather than the shortcomings of others. We need to be understanding and forgiving of others, just as we would want them to be understanding and forgiving of us. We also need to remember that everyone has divine potential.

Here are some tips for avoiding focusing on the faults of others:

• Be mindful of your thoughts and judgments. When you notice yourself judging someone, ask yourself why you are doing it. Is it because you are insecure? Is it because you are projecting your own shortcomings onto them?
• Try to see things from their perspective. Why might they be behaving the way they are? What might they be going through?
• Focus on their strengths as well as their weaknesses. Everyone has good qualities and bad qualities. It is important to see the whole person, not just their flaws.
• Remember that you don’t know everything about them. You may not know the full story behind their behavior. It is important to be humble and to avoid judging others too quickly.
• Focus on the present moment. Don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. Instead, focus on building a positive relationship with the person in the present moment.
  

When we focus on the good in others, we help them to become the best versions of themselves. We also create a more positive and loving world.

1. ’Abdu’l-Bahá. The Promulgation of Universal Peace: Talks Delivered by ʻAbduʼl-Bahá during His Visit to the United States and Canada in 1912. Edited by Howard MacNutt. 2nd ed. Wilmette, Ill: Baháʼí Publishing Trust, 1982, 92-93. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/abdul-baha/promulgation-universal-peace/4#424700415. ↩
2. Ruhi Institute. Reflections on the Life of the Spirit. 4.1.2.PE May 2020. Vol. Book 1. 6 vols. Embarking on a Path of Service. Cali, Columbia: Ruhi Institute, 2020, 10. https://www.ruhi.org/en/walking-a-path-of-service/#RLS ↩

Istiqlál, 15 ʻ’Izzat (Might), 180 B.E.

Reflections on the Life of the Spirit

Quote for Reflection:

It is my hope that you may consider this matter, that you may search out your own imperfections and not think of the imperfections of anybody else. Strive with all your power to be free from imperfections. Heedless souls are always seeking faults in others. What can the hypocrite know of others’ faults when he is blind to his own? This is the meaning of the words in the Seven Valleys. It is a guide for human conduct. As long as a man does not find his own faults, he can never become perfect. Nothing is more fruitful for man than the knowledge of his own shortcomings. The Blessed Perfection says, “I wonder at the man who does not find his own imperfections.” — ‘Abdu’l-Bahá ¹

Question for Consideration:

What should we remember when we think of other people’s faults? ²

Google Bard Response:

When we think of other people’s faults, we should remember the following:

• We all have imperfections. No one is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes. It is important to be understanding and forgiving of others, just as we would want them to be understanding and forgiving of us.
• Judging others does not make us better. In fact, it often makes us worse. When we focus on the faults of others, we become more critical and less compassionate. We also lose sight of our own imperfections.
• It is better to focus on our own improvement than on the faults of others. When we focus on ourselves, we can make positive changes in our own lives. We can also become better people and better friends.
  

The passage from ‘Abdu’l-Bahá that you quoted is a reminder that it is important to focus on our own shortcomings rather than the shortcomings of others. He says that “nothing is more fruitful for man than the knowledge of his own shortcomings.” When we know our own weaknesses, we can work on improving them. We can also become more compassionate and understanding of others.

Here are some additional tips for remembering what to remember when thinking of other people’s faults:

• Try to see things from their perspective. Why might they be behaving the way they are? What might they be going through?
• Consider their strengths as well as their weaknesses. Everyone has good qualities and bad qualities. It is important to see the whole person, not just their flaws.
• Remember that you don’t know everything about them. You may not know the full story behind their behavior. It is important to be humble and to avoid judging others too quickly.
• Focus on the present moment. Don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. Instead, focus on building a positive relationship with the person in the present moment.
  

It is also important to remember that we are all on a journey of spiritual growth. We are all learning and growing, and we are all making mistakes. When we judge others, we forget that they are on the same journey as us. We also forget that we are all connected. When we hurt others, we hurt ourselves.

When we focus on our own improvement and on building positive relationships with others, we create a better world for everyone.

1. ’Abdu’l-Bahá. The Promulgation of Universal Peace: Talks Delivered by ʻAbduʼl-Bahá during His Visit to the United States and Canada in 1912. Edited by Howard MacNutt. 2nd ed. Wilmette, Ill: Baháʼí Publishing Trust, 1982, 244. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/abdul-baha/promulgation-universal-peace/17#700778835. ↩
2. Ruhi Institute. Reflections on the Life of the Spirit. 4.1.2.PE May 2020. Vol. Book 1. 6 vols. Embarking on a Path of Service. Cali, Columbia: Ruhi Institute, 2020, 10. https://www.ruhi.org/en/walking-a-path-of-service/#RLS ↩

Istijlál, 14 ʻ’Izzat (Might), 180 B.E.

Reflections on the Life of the Spirit

Quote for Reflection:

O COMPANION OF MY THRONE!

Hear no evil, and see no evil, abase not thyself, neither sigh and weep. Speak no evil, that thou mayest not hear it spoken unto thee, and magnify not the faults of others that thine own faults may not appear great; and wish not the abasement of anyone, that thine own abasement be not exposed. Live then the days of thy life, that are less than a fleeting moment, with thy mind stainless, thy heart unsullied, thy thoughts pure, and thy nature sanctified, so that, free and content, thou mayest put away this mortal frame, and repair unto the mystic paradise and abide in the eternal kingdom forevermore. — Bahá’u’lláh ¹

Question for Consideration:

What will happen to us if we magnify the faults of others? ²

Google Bard Response:

If we magnify the faults of others, the following things may happen to us:

• We will become judgmental and critical. We will start to see the world through a negative lens, and we will be more likely to find fault with others.
• We will become less compassionate and forgiving. We will forget that everyone is human and makes mistakes.
• We will damage our relationships with others. When we constantly focus on the faults of others, it can be difficult to build and maintain strong relationships.
• We will make ourselves unhappy. Focusing on the negative aspects of others can take a toll on our own mental and emotional well-being.
  

In addition, as Bahá’u’lláh says in the Hidden Words, “O Son of Being! How couldst thou forget thine own faults and busy thyself with the faults of others? Whoso doeth this is accursed of Me.” ³ This passage suggests that when we magnify the faults of others, we are essentially turning our backs on God and on our own spiritual growth.

Instead of magnifying the faults of others, we should focus on our own shortcomings and strive to become better people. We should also be kind and compassionate towards others, and we should forgive them for their mistakes. When we do this, we create a more positive and loving world for ourselves and for everyone around us.

1. Bahá’u’lláh. The Hidden Words. Translated by Shoghi Effendi. Bahá’í Reference Library. Accessed September 21, 2023. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/hidden-words/3#697759113. ↩
2. Ruhi Institute. Reflections on the Life of the Spirit. 4.1.2.PE May 2020. Vol. Book 1. 6 vols. Embarking on a Path of Service. Cali, Columbia: Ruhi Institute, 2020, 10. https://www.ruhi.org/en/walking-a-path-of-service/#RLS ↩
3. Ibid., https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/hidden-words/2#568477331. ↩

’Idál, 13 ʻ’Izzat (Might), 180 B.E.

Reflections on the Life of the Spirit

Quote for Reflection:

Backbiting, slander and dwelling on the faults of others have been repeatedly condemned by Bahá’u’lláh. In the Hidden Words, He clearly states: “O Son of Being! How couldst thou forget thine own faults and busy thyself with the faults of others? Whoso doeth this is accursed of Me.” And again: “O Son of Man! Breathe not the sins of others so long as thou art thyself a sinner. Shouldst thou transgress this command, accursed wouldst thou be, and to this I bear witness.” This strong admonition is further reiterated in His last work, “the Book of My Covenant”: “Verily I say, the tongue is for mentioning what is good, defile it not with unseemly talk. God hath forgiven what is past. Henceforward everyone should utter that which is meet and seemly, and should refrain from slander, abuse and whatever causeth sadness in men.” ¹

Question for Consideration:

What should we think of before breathing the sins of others? ²

Google Bard Response:

Before breathing the sins of others, we should think of the following:

• Our own sins. As Bahá’u’lláh says, “How couldst thou forget thine own faults and busy thyself with the faults of others? Whoso doeth this is accursed of Me.” We should all strive to be humble and to focus on our own shortcomings before judging others.
• The consequences of our words. When we talk about the sins of others, we can damage their reputation, hurt their feelings, and even cause them to lose opportunities. We should always be mindful of the impact our words can have on others.
• The fact that everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect, and we all make mistakes from time to time. When we judge others for their sins, we are forgetting our own humanity and our own need for forgiveness.
• The fact that God is the only one who can truly judge. We should not put ourselves in the place of God by judging others. Instead, we should focus on being kind and compassionate, and on helping others to grow and learn.
  

Here are some specific things to keep in mind when thinking about whether or not to talk about the sins of others:

• Is it necessary? Will talking about this person’s sin help them in some way?
• Is it kind? Will it hurt them or damage their reputation?
• Is it true? Do I have all the facts?
• Is it productive? Will it lead to a positive outcome?
  

If the answer to any of these questions is no, then it is best to keep silent.

Instead of talking about the sins of others, we should focus on talking about their good qualities. We should also focus on being kind and compassionate, and on helping others to grow and learn.

1. Bahá’u’lláh. The Kitáb-i-Aqdas. Bahá’í Reference Library. Accessed September 20, 2023. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/kitab-i-aqdas/12#392967566. ↩
2. Ruhi Institute. Reflections on the Life of the Spirit. 4.1.2.PE May 2020. Vol. Book 1. 6 vols. Embarking on a Path of Service. Cali, Columbia: Ruhi Institute, 2020, 10. https://www.ruhi.org/en/walking-a-path-of-service/#RLS ↩

Fidál, 12 ʻ’Izzat (Might), 180 B.E.

Reflections on the Life of the Spirit

Quote for Reflection:

That seeker should, also, regard backbiting as grievous error, and keep himself aloof from its dominion, inasmuch as backbiting quencheth the light of the heart, and extinguisheth the life of the soul. He should be content with little, and be freed from all inordinate desire. He should treasure the companionship of them that have renounced the world, and regard avoidance of boastful and worldly people a precious benefit. At the dawn of every day he should commune with God, and, with all his soul, persevere in the quest of his Beloved. He should consume every wayward thought with the flame of His loving mention, and, with the swiftness of lightning, pass by all else save Him. He should succor the dispossessed, and never withhold his favor from the destitute. He should show kindness to animals, how much more unto his fellowman, to him who is endowed with the power of utterance. He should not hesitate to offer up his life for his Beloved, nor allow the censure of the people to turn him away from the Truth. He should not wish for others that which he doth not wish for himself, nor promise that which he doth not fulfill. With all his heart he should avoid fellowship with evildoers, and pray for the remission of their sins. He should forgive the sinful, and never despise his low estate, for none knoweth what his own end shall be. How often hath a sinner attained, at the hour of death, to the essence of faith, and, quaffing the immortal draught, hath taken his flight unto the Concourse on high! And how often hath a devout believer, at the hour of his soul’s ascension, been so changed as to fall into the nethermost fire! — Bahá’u’lláh ¹

Question for Consideration:

What effect does backbiting have on the one who backbites? ²

Google Bard Response:

Bahá’u’lláh teaches that backbiting has a devastating effect on the one who backbites. He writes that it “quencheth the light of the heart, and extinguisheth the life of the soul.”

This is because backbiting is a form of spiritual poison. When we backbite someone, we are spreading negative thoughts and energy about them. This not only harms the person we are backbiting, but it also harms our own souls.

Backbiting can have a number of negative effects on the one who backbites, including:

• It can harden the heart. When we backbite someone, we are choosing to focus on their negative qualities and shortcomings. This can make it difficult for us to see the good in them, and it can also make it difficult for us to feel compassion for others.
• It can damage relationships. Backbiting can lead to distrust, resentment, and conflict. It can also damage our relationships with the people we are backbiting, as well as with the people we are backbiting to.
• It can create negative karma. Backbiting is a form of spiritual violence. When we backbite someone, we are creating negative karma for ourselves. This means that we are more likely to experience negative experiences in our own lives.
  

In addition to these negative effects, backbiting can also have a number of spiritual consequences. Bahá’u’lláh teaches that backbiting can prevent us from attaining spiritual growth and development. He also teaches that backbiting can lead us astray from the path of God.

If we want to protect our hearts and our souls, it is important to avoid backbiting. Instead, we should focus on speaking positively about others, and on spreading love and compassion.

1. Bahá’u’lláh. Gleanings from the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh. Translated by Shoghi Effendi. Bahá’í Reference Library, 1935. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/gleanings-writings-bahaullah/7#568533901. ↩
2. Ruhi Institute. Reflections on the Life of the Spirit. 4.1.2.PE May 2020. Vol. Book 1. 6 vols. Embarking on a Path of Service. Cali, Columbia: Ruhi Institute, 2020, 9-10. https://www.ruhi.org/en/walking-a-path-of-service/#RLS ↩

Kamál, 11 ʻ’Izzat (Might), 180 B.E.

Reflections on the Life of the Spirit

Quote for Reflection:

The divine Prophets are conjoined in the perfect state of love. Each One has given the glad tidings of His successor’s coming and each successor has sanctioned the One Who preceded Him. They were in the utmost unity, but Their followers are in strife. For instance, Moses gave the message of the glad tidings of Christ, and Christ confirmed the Prophethood of Moses. Therefore, between Moses and Jesus there is no variation or conflict. They are in perfect unity, but between the Jew and the Christian there is conflict. Now, therefore, if the Christian and Jewish peoples investigate the reality underlying their Prophets’ teachings, they will become kind in their attitude toward each other and associate in the utmost love, for reality is one and not dual or multiple. If this investigation of reality becomes universal, the divergent nations will ratify all the divine Prophets and confirm all the Holy Books. No strife or rancor will then remain, and the world will become united. Then will we associate in the reality of love. We will become as fathers and sons, as brothers and sisters living together in complete unity, love and happiness; for this century is the century of light. It is not like former centuries. Former centuries were epochs of oppression. Now human intellects have developed, and human intelligence has increased. Each soul is investigating reality. This is not a time when we shall wage war and be hostile toward each other. We are living at a time when we should enjoy real friendship. — ‘Abdu’l-Bahá ¹

Question for Consideration:

Decide whether the following statements are true:

One should say exactly what one thinks of others; it does not matter if their hearts are offended.

It is all right to tell lies to avoid conflict.

Conflict can be overcome with love and kindness.

Words are more effective when they are said with love.

It is all right to fight with someone if he starts it.

One has the right to be sharp with others when one is sick or sad.

It is unkind to laugh at others when they do something wrong.

When hard feelings exist between friends, each one should make a special effort to become closer to the other.

When hard feelings exist between friends, each one should wait until the other makes an effort to move closer. ²

Google Bard Response:

The following statements are true:

• Conflict can be overcome with love and kindness. This statement is true. When we treat others with love and kindness, even when we disagree with them, it can help to defuse conflict and build bridges
• Words are more effective when they are said with love. This statement is true. It is important to nurture our friendships and work to resolve any conflicts that may arise.
• It is unkind to laugh at others when they do something wrong. This statement is true. It is important to be respectful of others, even when they make mistakes. Laughing at someone can be hurtful and humiliating.
• When hard feelings exist between friends, each one should make a special effort to become closer to the other. This statement is true. It is important to nurture our friendships and work to resolve any conflicts that may arise.
  

The following statements are false:

• One should say exactly what one thinks of others; it does not matter if their hearts are offended. This statement is false because it is important to be mindful of the feelings of others, even if we disagree with them. It is possible to express our opinions without being hurtful.
• It is all right to tell lies to avoid conflict. This statement is false because lying is always wrong, even if it is to avoid conflict. Lying can erode trust and damage relationships.
• It is all right to fight with someone if he starts it. This statement is false. Violence is never the answer, no matter who starts it. It is important to find peaceful ways to resolve conflict.
• One has the right to be sharp with others when one is sick or sad. This statement is false. It is important to be patient and understanding with others, even when we are not feeling our best.
• When hard feelings exist between friends, each one should wait until the other makes an effort to move closer. This statement is false. If we are waiting for the other person to make the first move, the conflict may never be resolved. It is important to be proactive and take steps to heal the relationship.
  

The passage by ‘Abdu’l-Bahá emphasizes the importance of love, kindness, and unity. It teaches us that we should strive to overcome conflict with peace and understanding. When we treat others with love and respect, we create a more harmonious and compassionate world.

1. ’Abdu’l-Bahá. The Promulgation of Universal Peace: Talks Delivered by ʻAbduʼl-Bahá during His Visit to the United States and Canada in 1912. Edited by Howard MacNutt. 2nd ed. Wilmette, Ill: Baháʼí Publishing Trust, 1982, 222-223. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/abdul-baha/promulgation-universal-peace/16#846487127. ↩
2. Ruhi Institute. Reflections on the Life of the Spirit. 4.1.2.PE May 2020. Vol. Book 1. 6 vols. Embarking on a Path of Service. Cali, Columbia: Ruhi Institute, 2020, 9. https://www.ruhi.org/en/walking-a-path-of-service/#RLS ↩

Jamál, 10 ʻ’Izzat (Might), 180 B.E.

Reflections on the Life of the Spirit

Quote for Reflection:

The word of God which the Supreme Pen hath recorded on the seventh leaf of the Most Exalted Paradise is this: O ye men of wisdom among nations! Shut your eyes to estrangement, then fix your gaze upon unity. Cleave tenaciously unto that which will lead to the well-being and tranquility of all mankind. This span of earth is but one homeland and one habitation. It behooveth you to abandon vainglory which causeth alienation and to set your hearts on whatever will ensure harmony. In the estimation of the people of Bahá man’s glory lieth in his knowledge, his upright conduct, his praiseworthy character, his wisdom, and not in his nationality or rank. O people of the earth! Appreciate the value of this heavenly word. Indeed it may be likened unto a ship for the ocean of knowledge and a shining luminary for the realm of perception. — Bahá’u’lláh ^{1 2}

Question for Consideration:

Which of the following situations show signs of estrangement?

Two friends pass by one another on the street but ignore each other.

Someone arrives at a devotional gathering, and everyone greets her warmly.

Although they are polite to one another, two members of a group are reluctant to participate in a project together.³

Google Bard Response:

The first situation, where two friends pass by one another on the street but ignore each other, is the most likely to show signs of estrangement. This is because friends typically greet each other warmly and make an effort to connect, even if they have not seen each other in a while. If they ignore each other, it is likely that there is some tension or conflict between them that has caused them to distance themselves from each other.

The second situation, where someone arrives at a devotional gathering and everyone greets her warmly, does not show signs of estrangement. In fact, it shows the opposite: that the person is welcome and accepted by the group.

The third situation, where two members of a group are polite to one another but reluctant to participate in a project together, could be a sign of estrangement, but it is not as clear-cut as the first situation. It is possible that the two members of the group simply do not have much in common or that they have different work styles. However, if the reluctance to participate is due to a deeper conflict or disagreement, then it could be a sign of estrangement.

Ultimately, the best way to determine whether or not a situation shows signs of estrangement is to consider the context and the people involved. However, the first situation is the most likely to be a sign of estrangement.

1. Bahá’u’lláh. Tablets of Baháʾuʾlláh, Revealed after the Kitáb-i-Aqdas. Translated by Habib Taherzadeh. Ebook. Internet Archive: Project Gutenberg, 2005, 47-48. https://archive.org/details/tabletsofbahullh17310gut/page/n55/mode/2up. ↩
2. Bahá’u’lláh. Tablets of Bahá’u’lláh. Bahá’í Reference Library. Accessed September 16, 2023. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/tablets-bahaullah/3#327958234. ↩
3. Ruhi Institute. Reflections on the Life of the Spirit. 4.1.2.PE May 2020. Vol. Book 1. 6 vols. Embarking on a Path of Service. Cali, Columbia: Ruhi Institute, 2020, 9. https://www.ruhi.org/en/walking-a-path-of-service/#RLS ↩

Jalál, 09 ʻ’Izzat (Might), 180 B.E.

Reflections on the Life of the Spirit

Quote for Reflection:

This body of the Hands of the Cause of God is under the direction of the Guardian of the Cause of God. He must continually urge them to strive and endeavor to the utmost of their ability to diffuse the sweet savors of God, and to guide all the peoples of the world, for it is the light of Divine Guidance that causeth all the universe to be illumined. To disregard, though it be for a moment, this absolute command which is binding upon everyone, is in no wise permitted, that the existent world may become even as the Abhá Paradise, that the surface of the earth may become heavenly, that contention and conflict amidst peoples, kindreds, nations and governments may disappear, that all the dwellers on earth may become one people and one race, that the world may become even as one home. Should differences arise, they shall be amicably and conclusively settled by the Supreme Tribunal, that shall include members from all the governments and peoples of the world. — ‘Abdu’l-Bahá ¹

Question for Consideration:

In which of the following situations are conflict and contention present?

Two people express different ideas on some topic during consultation.

Two people become upset and argue with one another during consultation.

Two people stop attending a weekly devotional gathering because they are not on speaking terms with each other.

Members of a team collaborating on a project keep complaining, each one saying that the others are not doing their part. ²

Google Bard Response:

Answer: All of the situations described involve conflict and contention, but to varying degrees.

• Two people expressing different ideas on some topic during consultation: This can be a sign of conflict and contention, but it is not necessarily the case. It is possible for people to express their differences of opinion in a respectful and constructive way. However, if the discussion becomes heated or personal, then it can lead to conflict and contention.
• Two people becoming upset and arguing with one another during consultation: This is a clear sign of conflict and contention. When people argue, they are not able to listen to each other or consider each other’s viewpoints. This can lead to a breakdown in communication and understanding.
• Two people stopping attending a weekly devotional gathering because they are not on speaking terms with each other: This is another clear sign of conflict and contention. When people stop interacting with each other, it is because they are unable to resolve their differences. This can lead to a breakdown in relationships and community.
• Members of a team collaborating on a project keeping complaining, each one saying that the others are not doing their part: This is a situation where conflict and contention are likely to arise. When people are not pulling their weight on a team project, it can lead to frustration and resentment. This can create a hostile and unproductive work environment.
  

It is important to note that conflict and contention are not always bad. They can sometimes be necessary for progress. However, it is important to manage conflict in a way that is respectful and constructive. This means avoiding personal attacks and focusing on the issue at hand.

In the context of the passage from ‘Abdu’l-Bahá, it is clear that He is calling for a world where there is no conflict and contention. This means that people need to be able to resolve their differences in a respectful and constructive way.

It is also important to remember that conflict and contention can arise at any level of society. It can happen between individuals, groups, or even nations. However, it is possible to create a more peaceful and harmonious world, if we are willing to learn how to manage conflict in a constructive way.

1. ’Abdu’l-Bahá. Will and Testament of ’Abdu’l-Bahá. Translated by Shoghi Effendi. 1944. Reprint, Wilmette, Ill: Bahá’í Publishing Trust, 1971, 13. https://archive.org/details/willandtestamentofabdulbaha/page/n11/mode/2up. ↩
2. Ruhi Institute. Reflections on the Life of the Spirit. 4.1.2.PE May 2020. Vol. Book 1. 6 vols. Embarking on a Path of Service. Cali, Columbia: Ruhi Institute, 2020, 9. https://www.ruhi.org/en/walking-a-path-of-service/#RLS ↩

Istiqlál, 08 ʻ’Izzat (Might), 180 B.E.

Reflections on the Life of the Spirit

Quote for Reflection:

I beseech Thee, O my God, by Thy Word which Thou hast made to be the lodestone of the hearts and souls of men, the Word whereby Thou hast drawn Thy servants unto the heaven of Thy loving-kindness and the horizon of Thy grace and bounty, to accept from the former all that they have accomplished in Thy path and to ordain for the latter the recompense of whatsoever they had purposed to accomplish. Thou, verily, art the Lord of bounty and generosity, of grace and glory. O Lord, help certain souls among them to know their own selves and to restrain their tongues, lest they utter that which would abase their stations and bring their works to naught. Thou, verily, hast power over all things. — Bahá’u’lláh ¹

Question for Consideration:

“Lodestone” is another word for magnet. In what way does a kindly tongue act like a lodestone? ²

Google Bard Response:

A lodestone is a naturally occurring magnet that attracts iron. In the same way, a kindly tongue attracts people. It draws them in with its warmth and compassion. It makes them feel safe and loved. It creates a sense of connection and community.

A kindly tongue can also be used to heal. It can soothe hurt feelings, mend broken relationships, and bring peace to troubled minds. It can inspire others to be kind and compassionate, creating a ripple effect of good in the world.

In the quote from Bahá’u’lláh, the word “lodestone” is used to refer to the power of the Word of God to attract people to Him. The Word of God is a source of love, wisdom, and guidance. It can transform lives and bring about positive change in the world.

The same can be said of a kindly tongue. When we speak kind words, we are sharing the love and compassion of God with others. We are helping to create a more loving and compassionate world.

Here are some specific ways in which a kindly tongue can act like a lodestone:

• It can build trust and rapport. When we speak kindly to others, it shows that we care about them and that we value their opinions. This can help to build trust and rapport, which are essential for healthy relationships.
• It can defuse conflict. When we are faced with conflict, it can be tempting to lash out with harsh words. However, speaking kindly can help to defuse the situation and prevent it from escalating.
• It can encourage others. When we speak kindly to others, it can help to boost their confidence and motivation. This can be especially helpful for people who are struggling or who need encouragement.
• It can create a positive atmosphere. When we speak kindly, it creates a positive atmosphere around us. This can make people feel more comfortable and at ease, which can lead to better communication and collaboration.
  

In conclusion, a kindly tongue is a powerful tool that can be used to create positive change in the world. It can attract people, heal hearts, and inspire others to be kind and compassionate. If we all make a conscious effort to speak kindly to others, we can make the world a more loving and compassionate place.

Quote for Reflection:

Consort with all men, O people of Bahá, in a spirit of friendliness and fellowship. If ye be aware of a certain truth, if ye possess a jewel, of which others are deprived, share it with them in a language of utmost kindliness and goodwill. If it be accepted, if it fulfill its purpose, your object is attained. If anyone should refuse it, leave him unto himself, and beseech God to guide him. Beware lest ye deal unkindly with him. A kindly tongue is the lodestone of the hearts of men. It is the bread of the spirit, it clotheth the words with meaning, it is the fountain of the light of wisdom and understanding. — Bahá’u’lláh ³

Question for Consideration:

Which of the following statements proceed from a kindly tongue?

“Don’t bother me!”

“Why don’t you understand this?”

“Would you care to wait, please?”

“What terrible children!”

“Thank you, you’re very kind.”

“I don’t have any time for you now. I’m busy.” ⁴

Google Bard Response:

The statements that proceed from a kindly tongue are:

• “Would you care to wait, please?”
• “Thank you, you’re very kind.”
  

The other statements are either rude, insensitive, or dismissive.

• “Don’t bother me!” is rude and dismissive. It tells the other person that they are not important and that their time is not valuable.
• “Why don’t you understand this?” is insensitive. It implies that the other person is stupid or incompetent.
• “What terrible children!” is rude and judgmental. It makes the other person feel bad about their children.
• “I don’t have any time for you now. I’m busy.” is dismissive. It tells the other person that their needs are not important and that they should not bother the speaker.
  

The statement “Would you care to wait, please?” is polite and respectful. It shows that the speaker is willing to accommodate the other person’s needs. The statement “Thank you, you’re very kind.” is an expression of gratitude. It shows that the speaker appreciates the other person’s actions or words.

The quote from Bahá’u’lláh emphasizes the importance of using our words kindly and wisely. When we speak kindly, we create a more positive and harmonious environment for ourselves and for others. We also help to build bridges of understanding and cooperation.

1. Bahá’u’lláh. Days of Remembrance. Bahá’í Reference Library. Accessed September 14, 2023. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/days-remembrance/4#843655871. ↩
2. Ruhi Institute. Reflections on the Life of the Spirit. 4.1.2.PE May 2020. Vol. Book 1. 6 vols. Embarking on a Path of Service. Cali, Columbia: Ruhi Institute, 2020, 8. https://www.ruhi.org/en/walking-a-path-of-service/#RLS ↩
3. Bahá’u’lláh. Gleanings from the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh. Translated by Shoghi Effendi. Bahá’í Reference Library, 1935. https://www.bahai.org/library/authoritative-texts/bahaullah/gleanings-writings-bahaullah/7#722589456. ↩
4. Ruhi Institute, op. cit., 9. ↩