Fidál, 13 Asmá’ (Names), 183 B.E.
Quotes for Reflection
Every one of the friends should highly praise the other and each should regard himself as evanescent and as naught in the presence of others. All matters should be consulted upon in the meeting and whatever is the majority vote should be carried out. I swear by the one true God, it is better that all should agree on a wrong decision, than for one right vote to be singled out, inasmuch as single votes can be sources of dissension, which lead to ruin. Whereas, if in one case they take a wrong decision, in a hundred other cases they will adopt right decisions, and concord and unity are preserved. This will offset any deficiency, and will eventually lead to the righting of the wrong. — ‘Abdu’l-Bahá [1]
Question for Consideration
What personal qualities contribute to productive Bahá’í consultation? [2] [3]
Perplexity Computer Response:
Productive Bahá’í consultation depends less on debate skill than on spiritual and moral qualities that make a group genuinely able to discover truth together. The central posture is to offer one’s view frankly, but hold it lightly—seeking the best understanding and the unity of the group rather than personal victory. [4]
Core qualities
‘Abdu’l‑Bahá identifies these as the “prime requisites” for people who consult:
- Purity of motive: entering the discussion to serve the common good, not to advance status, defend a faction, or prevail personally.
- Radiance of spirit: bringing encouragement, hope, warmth, and goodwill rather than cynicism, hostility, or gloom.
- Detachment: separating oneself from one’s own idea, preferences, fears, and ego. A proposal can be expressed fully, then released for the group to examine.
- Spiritual orientation: in Bahá’í terms, turning toward God and being motivated by devotion to divine principles rather than self-interest.
- Humility and lowliness: recognizing that no one person possesses the whole truth; being ready to learn from every participant.
- Patience and long-suffering: enduring difficulty, disagreement, delay, and imperfect outcomes without resentment or withdrawal.
- A spirit of service: treating consultation as a responsibility to contribute to the welfare of the community, family, institution, or project—not as an arena for self-expression alone. [4]
How those qualities appear in practice
These inner dispositions show up as concrete habits:
- Courtesy and dignity: speaking respectfully even when one strongly disagrees.
- Care and moderation: expressing views clearly and candidly, but without exaggeration, pressure, sarcasm, or personal attack.
- Truth-seeking: treating differing views as resources for investigation rather than threats to be defeated.
- Frankness with calmness: contributing one’s actual judgment instead of remaining silent merely to avoid discomfort, while avoiding passion and rancor.
- Deep listening: giving others’ ideas a fair hearing; not interrupting, belittling, or taking criticism of an idea as criticism of oneself.
- Freedom from stubbornness: refusing to cling to a position once better insight emerges. The guidance explicitly warns that persistence in one’s own view can create discord and conceal truth.
- Restraint and self-discipline: speaking to the point, avoiding impulsive comments, and not turning remarks toward individuals [4] [5]
The distinctive shift: idea over ownership
A particularly important quality is detachment from one’s own proposal. In a productive consultative setting, a person may say, “Here is a possible way to understand the problem,” rather than “This is my position and I must win.”
That shift allows the idea to become the group’s shared object of inquiry. Others can improve it, challenge it, combine it with another insight, or set it aside without diminishing the person who originally offered it. This is why humility, courage, and love work together: humility permits learning; courage permits honest speech; love protects unity amid difference. [6]
After a decision
Consultation also calls for maturity after the group reaches a decision. Participants are asked to support the result rather than continue campaigning for their preferred option. In the cited guidance, when differences remain, a majority decision is to be followed by all—preserving unity and enabling the group to learn from action rather than becoming paralyzed by continuing contention. [5]
A concise checklist
Before joining a consultation, someone might ask:
- Am I here to serve the truth and the group, or to prove that I am right?
- Can I state my real view clearly and courteously?
- Can I listen without defensiveness or offense?
- Can I revise or release my opinion if the evidence or collective insight points elsewhere?
- Can I support the group’s decision sincerely, including when it was not my preference?
Those questions capture the personal discipline that turns consultation from ordinary argument into a collaborative search for wiser action.
Footnotes
[1] Research Department of the Universal House of Justice. CONSULTATION: A COMPILATION. February 1978, Revised November 1990. Bahá’í Reference Library. https://www.bahai.org/r/435036250
[2] Perplexity Computer. “Personal qualities that contribute to effective Bahá’í consultation.” Edited by Steve Bosserman. August 31, 2026. https://www.perplexity.ai/search/450d8a96-43ac-48ca-8bd3-0c6c7d9fe953
[3] Transformative Leadership Education Staff. “Unite, Decide, Thrive: Using Consultation to Improve Decisions” (Free Online Course). Transformative Leadership Education. https://tinyurl.com/courseconsultation
[4] The Bahá’í Faith Staff. “Consultation Quotes.” Bahá’í International Community. https://www.bahai.org/beliefs/universal-peace/articles-resources/consultation-quotes
[5] National Teaching Committee-Youth and Student Activities Staff. “A New World Order: Deepening Portfolio #1.” Bahá’í Publishing Trust, 1970. https://bahai.works/index.php?title=File:A_New_World_Order.pdf&page=37
[6] Bahai9 Wiki Contributors. “Consultation.” Bahai9. https://bahai9.com/wiki/Consultation
Be the Voice of…
Therefore, all souls should consider it incumbent upon them to investigate reality. Reality is one; and when found, it will unify all mankind. Reality is the love of God. Reality is the knowledge of God. Reality is justice. Reality is the oneness or solidarity of mankind. Reality is international peace. Reality is the knowledge of verities. Reality unifies humanity. — ‘Abdu’l-Bahá The Promulgation of Universal Peace | Bahá’í Reference Library.