Jalál, 10 Asmá’ (Names), 183 B.E.
Quotes for Reflection
If they agree upon a subject, even though it be wrong, it is better than to disagree and be in the right, for this difference will produce the demolition of the divine foundation. Though one of the parties may be in the right and they disagree that will be the cause of a thousand wrongs, but if they agree and both parties are in the wrong, as it is in unity the truth will be revealed and the wrong made right. — ‘Abdu’l-Bahá [1]
Question for Consideration
How do unity, honesty, courtesy, and tact contribute to effective Bahá’í consultation? [2] [3]
Perplexity Computer Response:
Unity, honesty, courtesy, and tact make Bahá’í consultation a shared search for truth rather than a contest of wills. Together, they allow participants to speak candidly, listen generously, and then support a decision with a unified spirit. [4]
Unity: the purpose and safeguard
In Bahá’í consultation, unity does not mean everyone begins with the same view or suppresses disagreement. It means participants come with a common purpose: discovering what is true and serving the good of the whole.
- Unity creates the trust needed for real differences to be voiced without people becoming defensive.
- It shifts the group from “my proposal versus yours” to “what course of action best reflects reality and promotes the common good?”
- After a decision is reached, unity calls on everyone to support it in action, including those who initially preferred another option. This makes collective decisions workable and lets the group learn from their results. [5]
Without this shared commitment, discussion can become factional, personal, or immobilized by disagreement. The Bahá’í writings warn that persistence in one’s own view produces discord and can obscure the truth the group is trying to uncover. [4]
Honesty: frankness in service of truth
Honesty supplies the information and moral courage consultation requires. Participants should offer what they genuinely think, including inconvenient facts, doubts, or minority perspectives, rather than saying only what seems agreeable.
That frankness is not bluntness for its own sake. An idea is offered as a contribution to collective understanding—not as a possession to defend. Once expressed, the view can be examined, improved, combined with other insights, or set aside if evidence points elsewhere. [5]
For example, if a community is considering a new service project, honesty means someone can say, “We do not yet have evidence that this meets the need we think it meets,” even if others are enthusiastic. That contribution may prevent wasted effort and lead the group to investigate the actual situation more carefully.
Courtesy and tact: protecting dignity and openness
Courtesy and tact govern how truth is expressed. The guidance describes sharing views with “courtesy, dignity, care and moderation,” while also insisting that no one should belittle another person’s thought. [4]
They contribute in several ways:
- Courtesy treats each participant as worthy of attention, regardless of age, status, experience, or whether one agrees with them.
- Tact helps someone state a difficult concern in language that invites reflection instead of provoking humiliation or resistance.
- Both make it safer for quieter members and people with minority views to participate freely.
- They preserve the distinction between challenging an idea—which is necessary—and attacking the person who raised it—which undermines consultation.
Tact is therefore not evasion. It is truthful speech disciplined by love, humility, and a desire for the other person’s understanding.
How the qualities work together
| Quality | What it asks of participants | Contribution to consultation |
| Unity | Seek the common good and support the collective process | Turns disagreement into cooperative inquiry |
| Honesty | Share one’s real perspective and relevant facts | Prevents false agreement and exposes reality |
| Courtesy | Listen respectfully; do not ridicule or belittle | Protects the dignity and participation of all |
| Tact | Present difficult truths with moderation and care | Keeps frankness constructive rather than divisive |
The balance is important: unity without honesty can become superficial harmony; honesty without courtesy can become harshness; courtesy without tact may still fail when sensitive issues arise; and tact without honesty can become avoidance. Effective Bahá’í consultation holds all four together—frank but kind, diverse in views but united in purpose, and ready to revise its understanding through action and reflection. [4] [5]
Footnotes
[1] Research Department of the Universal House of Justice. CONSULTATION: A COMPILATION. February 1978, Revised November 1990. Bahá’í Reference Library. https://www.bahai.org/r/737910360
[2] Perplexity Computer. “Unity, honesty, courtesy, and tact in effective Bahá’í consultation.” Edited by Steve Bosserman. August 26, 2026. https://www.perplexity.ai/search/83af446b-2656-4eed-a543-e184fa5fbd6d
[3] Transformative Leadership Education Staff. “Unite, Decide, Thrive: Using Consultation to Improve Decisions” (Free Online Course). Transformative Leadership Education. https://tinyurl.com/courseconsultation
[4] The Bahá’í Faith Staff. “Consultation Quotes.” Bahá’í International Community. https://www.bahai.org/beliefs/universal-peace/articles-resources/consultation-quotes
[5] Lambshead, Jeremy. “Five helpful habits for effective consultation.” Bahá’ís of the United States, April 16, 2025. https://www.bahai.us/five-helpful-habits-for-effective-consultation/
Be the Voice of…
Therefore, all souls should consider it incumbent upon them to investigate reality. Reality is one; and when found, it will unify all mankind. Reality is the love of God. Reality is the knowledge of God. Reality is justice. Reality is the oneness or solidarity of mankind. Reality is international peace. Reality is the knowledge of verities. Reality unifies humanity. — ‘Abdu’l-Bahá The Promulgation of Universal Peace | Bahá’í Reference Library.